Every parent wants the best for the child, hoping to provide them with opportunities that will really pave the way for success in the future. However, this relentless pursuit of excellence often leads to anxiety and burnout. Children feel immense pressure to excel in academics, sports, and extracurricular activities. Parents, in their hurry to see their children excel, might inadvertently add to this stress. That fine line between motivation and pressure is something one must keep in mind, as its crossing could increase anxiety and hurt the mental health of children. In that respect, it is important for parents to create an atmosphere in which children have the drive but do not feel burdened. For this reason, balancing support and adopting attainable expectations becomes continuous for parents to see their children excel without a cost to emotional well-being.
The children must also feel that they are safe and confident that their self-esteem does not equate to what they achieve. Some encouragement from the parents can be provided in methods to balance the pressure by giving tips that would help reduce their anxiety and keep an ambiance which is helpful for the child's growth. By understanding and applying these tips, parents can ensure the growth of their children into capable and resilient individuals who feel valued.
Make sure the children set, or that you set for them, goals that are within their reach appropriate as per their age. Keep in mind their weaknesses and strengths and set expectations that are stretching but not overwhelming.
Praise children for the effort and hard work they accorded an activity; not just the results. This will reinforce that their worth is not in their achievements alone but in committing oneself to things and striving for them.
One should be able to provide an avenue where children are comfortable talking about their fears, concerns, and aspirations. Listen actively with empathy, be supportive and guiding with no judgments.
Show them how one can healthfully deal with stressors or difficult situations. Since children often learn by observing, one can show them how to be resilient and solve problems while maintaining a positive attitude.
Provide enough emotional support by being emphatic and concerned for them. Acknowledge their feelings, comfort them, and help them navigate through their feelings.
Ensure that the child has a routine ahead of him or her that is balanced in terms of study time, extracurricular activities, rest, and personal time to be spent so that he or she does not feel overwhelmed by reducing time management stress.
Celebrate small steps and milestones of achievement. This will boost confidence and self-motivation to go further without any pressure.
Give choices to the children and make them responsible for the outcome to encourage self-reliance, enabling them to feel in control and less anxious.
Progress will be slow, and your child may have setbacks too. Be patient and supportive, reassure him that you believe in his capable hands, and further stay with him over the process to success.
Never compare your child with other children. Comparison is one of the ways by which he or she will start feeling inadequate, and thus more anxious. Focus on his or her personal progress and accomplishments and celebrate his or her strengths and qualities.
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