Introduction
Parental anxiety is a familiar but also common overlooked concern that can seriously affect children as far as their emotional and psychological development goes. In a world where parents show great concern about different factors—ranging from financial stress to health matters—it is only natural that anxiety begins to creep in more often than not. This anxiety, chronic or situational, then begins to spread throughout the whole family. As children are so intuitive and sensitive to their parents' emotional states, they will typically take in and internalize this anxiety and, consequently create a plethora of problems.
This interaction between parental anxiety and the effects there from on children should be well understood so that a healthy family environment is fostered. The anxiety of a parent can affect his or her parenting style, interaction, and even the atmosphere at home. This affects a child's perception and reaction to their world by causing them anxiety, behavior problems, social and academic difficulties. Let’s understand what parental anxiety is and its impact on children and how it manifests itself through them in five different ways.
What is Parental Anxiety?
Parental anxiety describes the stress and a normal level of concern that parents have relating to their kids. However, there is also stress regarding other life issues such as finances, health, and relationships. It can be situational in response to an event or general and ongoing. Many factors contribute to parental anxiety: pressure from society to raise perfect children; juggling the many different demands elasticity; and mental illnesses that parents themselves contain. It is called parental anxiety, and it shows up as excessive worry about bad problems arising, often coupled with a sense of helplessness.
Anxious parents display various behaviors regarding their children and relating patterns. They are likely to be overprotective of them, become overly controlling or are distant emotionally; all these are probable ways by which to disrupt the healthy development of a child. It is, therefore, essential that the parents appreciate how this anxiety impacts their children so that they can readily respond to their mental health needs and be supportive of the kids.
Impact of Anxiety in Parents on Children
Emotional Transmission
Children are super sensitive to the emotions of their parents. Whenever their parents are anxious, children will often pick up on this anxiety, reflecting it in themselves. Children catch, or adopt, literally on the contagion basis of emotion, anxiety coming from their parents. When this happens repeatedly, the child internalizes the anxiety, making it their very own feelings of worry and fear. For instance, the child becomes more nervous, irritable, and emotionally sensitive. By observing their anxious parents, children learn to see the world as a more dangerous place, which can have a profound impact on their mental health.
Impact on Attachment
Parental anxiety can have an impact on attachment between parents and children. Anxious parents cannot usually provide consistent emotional support and reassurance, thereby creating insecure attachment patterns in their children. Safe attachment has a tremendous impact on the child's feeling of safety and trust. If this bond is disrupted, then children will experience attachment problems and will not be able to enjoy healthy relationships later. For instance, they might become overly attached to their parents, or the opposite may be the case in that they are emotionally detached, either way causing a hindrance to their socio-emotional development.
Adopting a Pattern
As children observe the behaviors of parents, so do the ways they deal with stressful situations. If children's parents show anxious behaviors constantly, it is expected that the children will also develop the same trends of behavior. For instance, when children see parents reacting to stress by panicking or even just avoiding the problem, then they may learn to deal with stress similarly. Such a modeling effect can deprive children of learning effective coping strategies and ensure that they are increasingly incapable of handling stress and anxiety on their own. Reassuringly, though, when parents do their part in tackling their own anxiety, they tend to model effective coping strategies for their children.
Behavioral Problems
Parenting anxiety may create an environment of stress wherein children are subjected to undue pressure to meet exaggerated expectations. This causes behavioral problems, like the child becoming resistant, rebellious, or introverted. At school, they are not able to focus, thus their grades are lower or their performance in school is poor. Moreover, the child may believe that his problems are admittedly aggravated by fear of disappointing these overanxious parents, thus constituting a vicious circle of stress and underperformance.
Health and Physical Symptoms
Parental anxiety can also affect the physical health of the child. What happens is that stress and anxiety in children often take on the form of somatic complaints, where they show symptoms of headaches, stomachaches, or difficulty in sleeping. In most cases, such somatic complaints will have a direct relation to the emotional turmoil experienced by these children due to the anxiety of their parents. The weakening of the immune system due to chronic stress makes children increasingly susceptible to illnesses as time passes. Parental anxiety must, therefore, be addressed not only due to the child's emotional but also physical well-being.
The views expressed are that of the expert alone.
